Perfectionism, according to whom?
Uthi ungomunye, abanye bakutshele ukuthi ungomunye, noma uyamazi omunye—umuntu ophelelisa izinto kungabi ngaphutha elisolekayo!
Kusuke kuwukusebenzisa amagama ngendlela ebhuqayo uma umuntu ekhuluma ngokungalenzi iphutha. Ngoba akusiyona imfihlo ukuthi uma umuntu ethi akalenzi iphutha kwingxenye yempilo ethize, kusuke lokho kuwukuvuma ukuthi kukhona ingxenye yempilo lapho ahluleka khona ngokuthusayo (lokhu kuyawuchitha umqondo wokuthi kukhona umuntu owenza izinto ziphelele zingabi nalo iphutha). Ukwenza isibonelo, umuntu ofuna kuhlezi kuhlanzekile endlini imvamisa uyisahluleki uma sekuziwa ngase kwenzeni ukuthula emndenini. Umuntu ongalenzi iphutha ekugcineni isikhathi uvame ukuba owehluleka ngokusobala ekubekezeleni. Umuntu ofuna ukuphelela ekugcineni ukuthula uvame ukuba necala lokuncoma abantu ngokweqile. Uhlu luyaqhubeka
Impela kukhona umyalo emiBhalweni wokuba siphelele. Uma ungumuntu ongafuni ukuphelela, kufanele usebenze kanzima ekukwenzeni. Uma ungumuntu ongafuni kubekhona iphutha, kufanele uphelelise incazelo yakho yokufuna izinto zenzeke ngendlela engenalo iphutha.
KuMathewu 5:48 uJesu unikeza umyalo othi: “Ngakho-ke manibe ngabapheleleyo, njengoba noYihlo osezulwini ephelele.” Lelo gama elithi “ngakho-ke” kufanele likwenze ubuze ukuthi “ngakho-ke likhona ngenxa yani?”, futhi kufanele likwenze ubhekisele amehlo akho emavesini alandulelayo kulesi siqephu ukuze ubone ukuthi ukuphelela ngokungabi naphutha okufunwayo kubonakala ekuboniseni umusa kubangane nasezitheni ngokufanayo (Mathewu 5:43–46), ingasaphathwa yonke enye ingxenye yalesi sahluko
KuMathewu 5:48 akukhona lokho okuvame ukuqondwa njengokufuna ukuphelela kungabi naphutha (perfectionism). Pho-ke, liyini igama leBhayibheli elichaza le ndlela yokufuna ukuphelela endaweni eyodwa yokuphila ebangela izinkinga kwezinye izindawo? Kukhona ibinzana elincane esahlukweni esidumile sothando elinikeza inkomba yeBhayibheli yalokho esivame ukukubiza ngokufuna ukuphelela. Ku-1 KwabaseKhorinte 13:5 kubhaliwe ukuthi: “uthando aluzifunelo okwalo.” Ukufuna ukuphelela ngokomqondo wabantu akukhona kakhulu izinga elingephikiswe lokuthi kuyini ukuhlanzeka kwendlu ngokuphelele, ngaphezulu kokuba kungukuphikelela komuntu ofuna ukuphelela kwenhlanzeko yegumbi okufunwa nguyena.
Uthando loBukhrestu aluphoqeleli eyalo indlela, kodwa lujabula ngezinga leqiniso lokuphelela likaYise osezulwini. Ngenxa yalokho, UMkhrestu ofuna ukuphelela (kwangathi lokhu kungaba yiqiniso ngathi sonke!) uzoba ngumuntu ofuna ukuphelela othandweni loBukhrestu.
Uthando luyabekezela, lumnene; uthando alunamhawu, aluzigabisi, aluzikhukhumezi; aluziphathi ngokungafanele, aluzifuneli okwalo, alucunuki, alunagqubu; aluthokozi ngokungalungile, kodwa luthokozela iqiniso, lusibekela zonke izinto, lukholwa yizinto zonke, lubekezelela izinto zonke.Uthando alusoze lwaphela,
1 KwabaseKhorinte 13:8