By What happens when you don’t get what you wanted? The shortest answer is probably “I sin” (James 4:1). When our desires are met, we are happy and feel loved. But when our desires are not met, we become unhappy and feel unloved.
That is why we need to change our reaction to unmet desires. If we are to demonstrate what God’s desire for us is (Rom 12:2), then we need to change the way we deal with our unmet desires.
The shortest replacement for “I sin” when you do not get what you wanted, is “I love”. Love does not seek its own way (1 Cor 13:5), but considers what others might be expecting instead (Phil 2:4). When you don’t get what you wanted, love, don’t sin. Don’t manipulate, complain, or hate, but love, care, and do good.