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Abanye babantu abakhulumayo kakhulu—baze benze amaphutha. Abanye abathanda ukulalela—baze babe namaphutha. Kuyenzeka uhlale uhlale uzithole ukhuluma nomuntu olalela ngokugxilile. Sonke isikhashana sokuthula kwingxoxo siphazamiswa amazwana ambalwa ombuzo avela kulowo olalelayo ekhuthaza ukuthi ulokhu ukhulumile. Uma uwazama lawo magama ambalwa ukuwaphendula ubuze bona, baphendula ngamazwi amafushane acacile bese ngandlela thize abuyisele ithuba lokukhuluma kuwena.
Ubuqotho bokulalela ngaphezulu kokukhuluma busobala. Isaga seTestamente Elisha ligoqa konke lokhu ngalamagama:
Yazini lokhu, bazalwane bami abathandekayo, ukuthi: makube yilowo nalowo muntu asheshe ukuzwa, aphuze ukukhuluma, aphuze nokuthukuthela.
EkaJakobe1:19
Yize kunjalo, abahlakaniphile, abalaleli kahle kuphela, kodwa bakhuluma kahle futhi. Ukulalela kukwenza uhlakaniphe, kodwa kwisikhathi lapho kuvela ubuwula, lowo ohlakiniphile olalelayo uzophinde futhi akhulume.
Ezindebeni zalowo ocubungulayo, kufunyanwa ukuhlakanipha
Izaga 10:13
Izindebe zolungileyo zondla abaningi, kepha iziwula ziyafa ngokuswela ingqondo.
Izaba10:21
Iseluleko esiphathekayo esibheke kulowo okhuluma kakhulu ukufunda ukuqeda ingxoxo. Kulowo okushisekele ukulalela, iseluleko esiphathekayo sokuthi ungenza kanjani ukuthi ukhulume kakhudlwana ukufunda ukuqala ingxoxo—hhayi ingxoxo lapho ubuza imibuzo ezophinde ikwenze lowo ozolalela futhi, kodwa akube yinkulumo mpendulwano ekahle. Funda ukunikezela ngolwazi ukuze uzoba nalokho umhlobo wakho angenakho. Yabelana ngombono onokuhlakanipha. Veza owakho umbono nendlela ozizwa ngayo. Vuleleka kubangani bakho ukuze ungabi ngawedwana. Yaziwa hhayi kuphela ngokulalela, kodwa nangokuhlakanipha.